UNGODLY ACTIONS (In reference to the RADHE MAA contreversy)

God made man in his own image and man today returns the favor back! True indeed we today have disguised God and his ways beneath our own beliefs, logic and thinking. Most of us are far from reality having no glimpse over the truth that really exists. Most of our religious discussions and beliefs are based on the values and belief systems that some organizations or some “self styled God” preaches and propagates. Being spiritual today means more of sitting among large audiences listening to and glorifying the SELF STYLED individual who either  calls himself GOD or someone who has direct connections with HIM. No sooner, the teachings disappear from our minds and we are just left gratifying and praising this organization or individual (GURU) . Our entire focus shifts to that individual or organization. We start involving more of our people into this web and soon generations of generations are led to believe that this person is the benefactor of our lives and under whose instruction our life works. We start worshipping these people and organizations forgetting that it was GOD whom we searched and not his messenger. Nowadays the situation has become more worse such that we don’t even feel the need to know and understand the soul behind  the satrangi (orange) clothes. We just blindly believe them and ASSUME that whatever they say would provide us our much needed solace. We offer them  the position of GOD by making them the guides of our life. How often do we ask ourselves about the reality? How many of us are really aware of the personality and the motives of the person whom we follow. Recent cases like RADHE MAA reveal just the opposite. Spiritualism today has become more of a fan following rather than a search for the truth. Years after you follow a self styled guru are you exposed to the  real realities of the person whose advice you always considered. Nowadays after every two months there pops a headline revealing the real motives and actions of an individual you respected and followed so much.
But why is this? Why aren’t we able to judge ? The answer lies maybe in our search. Today most of us search for a big house, a big bank balance, happy prosperous families for our children, successful business and so on. What we aim today are materialistic things and not knowledge . We don’t seek GOD because we have a self styled human to bless us with his priceless materialistic blessings under the name of miracles and we happily dub him under the name of a CHARISMATIC GOD. We all know the law of karma. We know we will be served what we deserve and no external force or person can change it, but still we continue to give our lives in the hands of some one else. We continue to believe that it is because of my guru that my life is the way it is. What we fail to realize is that I reap the fruits of whatever I sow. If you believe in something it is your willpower and effort that guides you towards success and not the individual who gave you a bracelet to wear for your success. And what actually happens years post you follow someone like that? You are revealed to the real personality ! And after that followers are left in a fix whether to support their benefactor or to take a safe exit from the situation. In the recent RADHE MAA controversy also such a thing happened. A company near my house were ardent followers of the self styled god woman. They had a huge wall painted with her picture. Within days post the complicated controversy they hid her poster. What is left is just broken faith and a wavering mind and battling thoughts.
The problem actually is that we are all GOD fearing people and this GOD fear is the weapon that most individuals use against us. When it comes to religion we agree to blindly trust a stranger just on the basis of a following he has already gathered. We fear to use our logic to question their teachings, or the way they live their own life or command their followers to live. We fear that the wrath of GOD might target us and we may suffer because of this. We don’t even realize when we reduce GOD ,The ultimate power, to such weak emotions like anger and revenge? We consider him to be another man who thinks and behaves like any other individual. We have created GOD in the reflections of our own thought and action. Its time we change this mentality of ours and see GOD as a peaceful and knowledge full power who is there to guide us. We need to redefine the way we use the word spiritualism! We need to focus our lives into finding GOD and receive blessings from him in the form of love and power to overcome our weaknesses. We need to breakfree of worldly desires and those self styled individuals who promise us such wordly baits of success and miracles! Its time we truly understand the individual who will act as an aid to our journey towards the real truth otherwise the end would always be disappointing !


Rakshabandhan Blessings


I struggled my way through the bus door, carrying the heavy bags in my tender hands, lingering my eyes along the seats lined, only to discover that this journey would be a tired one for me. Not even a single seat was left vacant. It was rakshabandhan this weekend and the crowd in the bus really showed it. The bus was full of young brothers excited enough to go home and meet their sisters to bestow them with wonderful happy gifts and promises of protection and love.  I adjusted myself in a safe corner away from the thrusts and squeezing of the arms and stood supporting myself along the railing of a seat. On that seat sat two young men discussing their plans for the occasion. Their excited voices amplified as they started boasting about the expensive gifts they had borrowed for their respective sisters. “FAMILY MEN” I thought and felt happy for their sisters who were really blessed to have such caring brothers. Their discussion continued but not our journey. It had been half an hour since we were stuck in a jam. For obvious reasons everyone in the bus felt helpless and terrible as the  scaling temperatures added to the mess. It became all the more difficult for me to continue in that standing position. I had my eyes fixed on all seats if any one could just get up and offer me their seat. Just because I was a “stranger” and not by blood anyone’s “sister” no one adjusted or offered their seat to me. I felt miserable. Had these happy men sitting besides me their sister along with them they wouldn’t have left any stone unturned in securing a seat for her. But no one really noticed me. I preferred to ignore this disturbing thought and switched my thoughts to something else. Two minutes later these guys disturbed me from my positive solace as they shouted swear words to the driver. I had heard these hindi cuss words a thousand times in my life (a sister cussing word) but never did I feel the impact of it the way I did at that time. I wondered at the irony of these men who were selfish enough to love only their own sisters. Just minutes before this incident they were boasting about their love for their sisters and now they sat swearing not even aware of the words they used. Not only these two men I am sure there are hundreds of men like them who promise protection to their sisters yet are not ready to give the respect or dignity that any other women except their own sister requires. They can use cuss words aiming at any girl, even mothers , they cannot offer comfort to women who are strangers to them but yes they very much respect their own sisters or women directly related to them. I am not saying that these men use the swear word consciously to belittle any brother sister relation but yes they can always consciously not use this word after realizing the real sense of these words. How many times do men and nowadays even women think before they degrade a brother sister relation to dirt? Not even once , its a habit!
Is it not our responsibility to curb such habits? Instead of gifting expensive watches or dresses to your sisters pledge to give up one bad habit of yours. Reducing 3-4 words from your vocabulary won’t take much of an effort but doing so would definitely make this Rakshabandhan true to its spirit. Rakshabandhan means giving the brother sister bond its true respect.
Besides this lets pledge this RAKSHABANDHAN to give all girls (whether she is or isn’t your sister, mother, friend, girlfriend, wife or neighbor) the respect she deserves. We cannot socialize this message beyond social networking sites but as responsible men and women we can surely pose an example. We can show thousands of ignorant men and women what it means to respect. I would sincerely request people who regularly travel by bus to please offer your seats to women and old people because maybe you are the only safe brother in the entire bus. Another man may be preying upon the girl standing next to you with eyes of lust. She may get secretly and silently molested without anyone even noticing it. So offer her your seat to prevent such incidents. The way fathers and brothers restrict their daughter’s and sister’s timings and clothes to some limits to prevent any kind of mishappening, the same way we can also prevent a hundred such incidences. Make the girl sitting next to you feel comfortable and not vulnerable sitting next to you. This rakshabandhan when your sister ties the thread around your wrist promise her respect, give her a sense of confidence to face the world. Make her believe that clothing restrictions on her is our fault not hers. And don’t give this gift of invulnerability only to your own sister but to the everyone’s sister as well.
Every moment you are surrounded by a hundred sisters who aren’t related to you by blood but all of them have brothers who promised them security like you did. They are alone and with strangers like you. Fulfil the promises that their brothers must have done to them. Make a pledge in providing security to them and not eye upon them as pieces of meat. Only when all men see all women around them with the respect and dignity of a sister, will they be able to protect them and make them feel comfortable in the surroundings of unknown men. Gift her respect and a gender neutral world. That is what we as sisters need! Not a thing more and not a thing less!
And one more aspect we all need to realize is that rakshabandhan should be returned to its initial symbolic position where a rakhi can be exchanged between people of any sex and relation as a promise of security. We need to treat rakshabandhan  more than a gift exchange festival between a “strong” brother and a “weak” sister.
A caressing hand ran across her hair,
Providing her comfort and care,
Her eyes shined as she dreamed her future,
only until they were destroyed by nature.
She grew up to fear every man,
Molested as if a used can,
Who was to know why she kept so quiet,
Maybe somewhere someone denied her right.
She suffered alone as she treaded her way,
Sad memories behind her smile so gay!
The caressing hand unaware of her fate,
promised to be her mate,
Only after years so long,
Did that man know what went wrong!
He promised again to protect her always,
but he couldn’t always accompany her in every race.
But he did his part,
And wished upon every girl with the same heart!
The trouble came down encouragingly,
Negatives taking their flee!
Responsible took the power,
Providing every sister its deserving bower!
The world was way to safer now for her,
A caressing pat again around her fur!

SOURCE & STORY : Mridul Bedi (Owner of Wordyhues)